Don't worry because you're not alone hehe. I wish I am a good advisor for myself. I mean personally it's quite easy to ease people and to give advices on their problems but when it comes to my own, hmmm I can't do anything right and most of the time I'll end up feeling extremely sad and disappointed. I know lame giloss but what to do I'm bad in handling pressure and failures.
At certain point I think we need to learn to forgive ourselves on things we cannot do and start to accept the fact that we are all humans, we have advantages and limitations. Of course there'll be things that we're good at and vice versa. We cannot expect ourselves to be perfect all the time kan. So just chill lah, do your best and if you still fail just remember that maybe that is not your thing, maybe I was meant for other areas (positive thinking). There are a lot of other things to treasure and the sky is the only limit remember?
Back then I used to be so furious and angry when I failed to do something which I thought I should be doing. I had high expectations so when I failed to achieve that, yeah I ended up beating myself up. Being too confident with yourself is sometimes a mistake or a trap that we all do. I learn that no matter what, success will not occur just because you have the idea inside your head and passion inside your heart. There are a lot of other things to consider. These days I expect less in almost anything even on the simplest thing so that I don't errr I don't know so that I don't cry much? Err.
Personally I think that one of the reasons why we're so afraid of failing is because we are afraid of not being able to catch up with the world. The culture we're living is so now where we don't appreciate people for their hard work or efforts, we just want to see the outcome or the success. In other words, no matter how much efforts you have put in lightning the bulb people don't care about that, they just want to see whether you'll succeed or not and that's is the 'kayu ukur' for you. For me yeah I am afraid of being left behind and I think I have fear of being invisible, I mean those days I used to think that if I don't get an A for this people will look down on me or if I don't achieve my goals by the time I'm 30 then all the doors are closed and etc. The idea that you have to achieve something in order to make people see who you are is suffocating because you have to keep competing, fighting most of time like there'll be no 'peace-phase'. It's a lonely battle between remembering and forgetting.
So again back to our most basic point, one thing that I can conclude is success is very subjective. The definition of it varies depends on who's talking I mean some people consider success as getting all straight As in exams while some people might believe that passing all the papers is enough of a bless. So yeah you decide on what really matters. My advice is in life you'll go through failures, that's fine. There'll be at least one time where you'll call yourself stupid (even though I did this all the time), going to regret the choices you made, there'll be time where you wonder what the hell you're doing but believe me that's not the end of everything. That's just a start. And one simple reminder if you haven't gone through a failure yet, don't worry your time will come baby so be prepared muehehehe (gelak jahat). Hope you are inspired, if not thennn I don't care.
That's all, done.I should be studying equity and trust, bye.
Told you, it's impossible not to love her :)
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